Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame you for "having feelings." Abusive people do this
I said this to the guy I dated before my husband. He said he thought he might be involved with someone else. I told him to to figure it out and leave me out of it. It worked out for me, but he's still single.