"The most powerful tool in coaching is the question - the Greek philosopher Socrates is regarded by some to have been the first coach. Among other things, he used deversified questions in his talks with his students. Here is how he did it.
Each student had a sheet of paper with everyone's name on it. They had to write a nice sentence about everyone in the class. Then each student had 20 nice things written about him or her that we framed.