Hard to do for someone who over-analyzes EVERYTHING! But its important to get this straight in your head. You can move past the surface and try to understand the deeper workings of someone elses actions when you take yourself out of the equation.
I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You're not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zones.