Relationship stages with a narcissist, phase 3. I personally never experienced this stage. However, I stuck through 13 years of mistreatment and loved him unconditionally throughout those years until I was completely indifferent toward him. I became one of the few people the narcissist was willing to love, however, it's still a selfish love. It still held all the narcissistic traits and I wasn't willing to settle. He found a possible borderline female who was a "mutual" friend.