"The beginning of love is to let the one we love be perfectly themselves, not twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them." - Thomas Merton, No Man is an Island
This is honestly one of the reasons people don't support feminism: they believe it's a form of payback for the centuries of oppression the female gender has faced. They believe feminism's definition of equality is to get men on women's level.