The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to selfishness. Verbal explosions when he is irritated or when he doesn’t get his way. Her grievances.
Someone from Frisco, Texas, US posted a whisper, which reads "I'm so shy, I've always struggled to make friends. I pretend that I hate people. But deep down I'm just lonely and bitter that I've never felt accepted.