We end up in toxic relationships because we don't stand up for ourselves early on when red flags occur. At some point you have to develop healthy barriers for how you're going to be treated; you're responsible for your experience, nobody else is.
Put your own oxygen masks on first. We can guve and help othrrs only from our overflow and reserve of good energy. We must help ourselves first and then give to others. VALUE YOURSELVES EVEN IF IT MEANS HARD WORK!
Before we fully recover it's a tricky time for us when we still feel the emotional pull, and it's the time when we need gentle but firm parenting from ourselves to bring us back to the reality of the situation.