One of the hardest decisions you can make is to remove yourself from a toxic relationship with your parent. At some point you have to acknowledge the verbal and mental abuse they put you through even if they refuse to take accountability and move on.
The time just before we fully recover is the trickiest time for us, because it's the time when we still feel the emotional pull, and it's the time when we need gentle but firm parenting from ourselves to bring us back to the reality of the situation.
Manipulative people latch on to empathetic targets and exploit their innate qualities. They find people who are easy-going, gentle and kind - who avoid conflict and seek to make others happy. The Problem: They reciprocate none of these things.
Boundaries are vital. You don't owe an explanation to anyone for the boundaries you choose to set to protect yourself and your family. It's your responsibility to set these protective boundaries, regardless of the opinions of others.