In our house. only hugs, smiles and warm fuzzy feelings are allowed. (remember that little book - all I ever needed to know I learned in Kindergarten =- yeah that is what my baby is learning now -warm fuzzy vs cold prickly).
or don't use the past of someone else that hurt you and think everyone is like that person and they are not. One can miss out on so much potential and actual true love not obligation to love or stay with someone.